
Sex Industry slang terms
A list of commonly used Adult Sex Industry slang terms in Social Media.
The Adult Industry is notorious for inventing new acronyms and is not afraid to hijack existing abbreviations commonly used in society.
Abbreviations like BLT, ATM, CNC, CBT no longer apply only to the Food, Banking, Industrial, Mental health Industries and the list keeps growing.
Different acronyms for the same thing are often found in different regions and the younger generation has their own versions too â Older providers use terms like Male-Female (M-F), whereas younger providers will use Boy-Girl (B-G) in keeping with sexuality trends.
It is wise to avoid words like girl/woman which are sexist, ageist terms.
Knowing these terms will help outsiders understand the Adult Industry, we have kept the definitions as short as possible, subject to change as the times change, and without trying to offend anyone, as many of the terms used are derogatory in nature.

What does MFM/BGB mean?
A threesome with a male and a male pleasuring a female. Note – The featured person is always the middle letter.
What is the difference between a hobbyist and a client?
Hobbyists exchange money for orgasms.
Clients value an experience of intimacy with another human being.
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So what do these Adult Industry slang terms mean?
1/2 and 1/2 – Oral sex + full service
24/7 – A type of relationship that is in place 24 hours a day, 7 days a week.
304 – A term used to refer to a sex worker. If you type the number into an old-school LED calculator and turn it upside down, it looks like h0E.
34,5 â A blowjob, usually a joke term used to confuse/evade children.
42 – Squatting on somebodies face.
69 â Two people engaging in mutual oral sex. Soixante neuf in French.
411 – Information, details.
420 friendly/Herb friendly – This typically means someone uses weed/pot/ganja/mushrooms.
ABDL â Adult Baby Diaper Lover, An infant fetish (dressing up and behaving like infants).
A-level – Anal penetration and play. See Greek style as the ancient Greeks used this to prevent pregnancies.
AAMP – Apartment Asian Massage Parlour (Residence).
ABC – American/Australian born Chinese.
Abolitionist – People who believe that porn is exploitative, violent and akin to trafficing/slavery.
ABJ – American/Australian born Japanese.
Achluophilia – Arousal from being in darkness, see Nyctophile.
Agency – A commercial business that manages bookings and providers.
ALBY – A browser extention and COIN wallet used on the NOSTR platform. Used for logging in and payments on the app.
AlternateMeansGuy – Clients who refuse to provide screening info on the grounds that their privacy is at risk and there are “easier ways to screen”, but cannot explain how to do it.
Amazon –Â A tall and strong female.
AMP – Asian Massage Parlour (Business).
Analingus – Around the world/ Anal rimming/Oral anal sex (licking the asshole)/Beso Negro/DATO.
Anon (Account) – A SM account that is separate from a SW’s main account. It is in stark contrast of the persona on their main SW account, it is used for venting or opposing opinions posted by fellow SW’s anonymously and is regarded as cowardly and/or fake.
AO – Asian Only, commonly found with AMPs who will provide FS only for Asian customers.
Aphrodisiac – Any food or drug that arouses the sexual instinct, induces veneral desire and increases pleasure and performance.
ATM/A2M – Ass to mouth (proper hygiene essential).
Arse (UK) – Fanny, Butt, Ass (USA), Gat, Hol (ZA),
Asexual â A person who has a lack of sexual attraction to others, or low desire for sexual activity.
Askhole – A person who asks for advice and then does the opposite of what you said.
ASP – Adult Service Provider. Any person who works in the adult industry.
Astrophile – Someone who loves the stars in the sky at night.
ATF – All Time Favourite.
Aunt Flo – Menstruation/Shark week/Crime scene action.
Auto Asphyxiation â Depriving oneself of oxygen to enhance arousal.
Autosexual –Â Being attracted to yourself.
Available now – Does not mean the provider is waiting for your boner, available now means they are available to accept pre bookings.
Babyback – Young, attractive and petite Asian girl.
Bait and Switch – A scam where a different SW shows up than the one who was advertised.
Balloons – Breast implants.
Bang/Shag – A UK term for casual sex (Wanna bang/shag?).
Bareback – See BB/BBS, “Raw dogging”. Africa – “Skin to skin”, Aust – “Uncovered”.
Barracuda– A SW who’s only aim is to separate you from your money as quickly as possible, without giving you anything in return.
Bastinado â Striking of the the soles of the feet, usually using a cane or paddle.
BB/BBS – Bareback sex, vaginal, oral or anal sex without a condom (Frowned apon in the Adult Industry without STD testing and certification). Porn stars/Duo’s etc HAVE to produce medical certificates!
BBBJ – Bare back blow job, uncovered BJ, see OWO.
BBBJTC/BBBJTCIM/San Juan – Bare Back Blow Job to Completion in mouth.
BBBJTCNQNS – Bare Back Blow Job To Completion, No Quit, No Spit.
BBBJTCWS – Bare Back Blow Job to Completion with Swallow.
BBBJWF – Bare Back Blow Job with Facial.
BBBW â Big black beautiful woman.
BBK – Big Beautiful Knockers.
BBQ – Two males have sex with one female. See MFM, BGB.
BCD – Behind Closed Doors. (A private and discrete service).
BBW – Big Beautiful Woman.
BDE – Big dick energy, a person who is confident in their sexuality. They don’t feel a need to show off, brag, ie. sending dick pics doesn’t even occur to them.
BDSM â Bondage, Domination, Sado Masochism – A kink spectrum with its own list of terms and abbreviations usually involving a Master/Slave or punishment scenario.
Bear â Usually refers to a large man with a lot of body hair.
Beastiality – Sexual acts with animals, it is banned on the internet and a criminal offence in almost all countries.
Beso Negro – Analingus/Around the world/Anal rimming/Oral anal sex (licking the asshole).
Bet – Yes, agree, OK etc (USA).
BFE – Boyfriend Experience. A term used where the client looks after the SW as he would a girlfriend.
Birdwatching – See BBBJTCWS.
Bisexual â A person with no sexual preference.
BJ/Blow job â fellatio, oral sex, cunnilingus, gobbie.
BJTC – Blow job to completion.
BL – Black List. Records of clients and/or providers known to be problematic.
BLS – Ball Licking and Sucking.
BLT – Blow your load on tits.
Blue Balls –Â A term for when a personâs prostrate aches because they are experiencing prolonged sexual arousal.
Blue Pill – Viagra/Cialis/Little blue helper.
BNG – Blow n Go, a quick blowjob.
Bondage â Restraint by means of ropes, chains, belts, cuffs, straps etc.
Boner – An erection.
Bottom â A person who prefers to relinquish control to someone else during sex.
Breath Play –Â Consensual restriction of oxygen to increase sexual pleasure.
Brothel/Bordello/Call house/Bawdy house/Cat house – An establishment dedicated to prostitution.
Brothel worker – A person who works in a brothel, avoid words like girl/woman which are sexist, ageist terms.
Bull â A muscular large framed man who is âhung like a bullâ.
Butt Plug – A sex toy that is inserted into the anus for the wearer’s pleasure. They are shaped so as not to fall out and come in many variations.
Butter Face/ED Zachary disease – Are terms used to describe an ugly SW.
Bye-sexual – See INCEL.
BYOC – Bring Your Own Condom. Not recommended as #SW prefer to provide their own protection and peace of mind. If you do the box MUST be sealed and untampered with.
Call Girl – An Escort/SW who comes to you.
Cam moderators – Give their time in exchange for either praise, love, or something else. They are not sex workers, oftentimes manipulative and try to exploit models.
Cam performer – A person who performs live on camming sites and provides private shows for their clients.
Cancellation fee – If a client no shows or cancels hours before an appointment, most providers now charge a cancellation fee as this is becoming too common in the industry – See NCNS.
Cash and Dash/Dance and Dash – A SWÂ who accepts money upfront and then leaves before providing a service.
Cash Cochon (Fr) – See Paypig.
CBJ – Condom blow job.
CBT – Cock and ball torture. Activities designed to cause intense sensations to the male genitals.
CD/Cross Dressing – A provider will help the client (sissy) do make up, hair, dress and go out in public.
CDS – Covered Doggy Style (Condom).
Celibate â A person choosing to not have sex with anyone. Monks sometimes choose to do this as a show of faith.
CFNM – Clothed Female Naked Male. Describes a clothed Dom being served by her sub/s.
CFS – All fully penetrative sex performed with a condom. Condom full sex.
CG – a) Cowgirl, a sexual position or b) Club girl or c) Casino girl or d) Call girl.
Chastity – A chastity device is a locked device that covers the genitals. When worn by a submissive, their dominant/keyholder, has the power to decide when, how, where, and how often the sub is granted sexual release.
Christofascist – A person who doesn’t realize that their chosen religion applies only to them and NOT to everyone else.
CHHFS – Covered Half Hour Full Service.
Chump -A man who wastes his money and/or his attention on women without getting any pussy in return.
CIM – Cum In Mouth.
CIV – Cum in vagina, creampie.
Civilian –Â A woman who makes herself available for sexual encounters but not for financial gain.
Clandestinas – SW who work illegally as unregistered prostitutes.
Client – Hobbyists exchange money for an orgasm. Clients value an experience of intimacy with another human being.
Clockwatcher – A term for a provider who counts the minutes until the session is over.
CMD – Carpet Matches Drapes. Pubic hair the same as hair colour.
CMT – Certified Massage Therapist.
CNC â Consent, non-consent. Pretending to not like something when youâve previously agreed to do it.
COB – Cum on boobs and/or body.
COF –Cum on face.
Completo – Spanish for âcompleteâ, usually meaning with or including anal sex.
Condom – FL, Effy (ZA), Party Hat (UK), Franga (Aust), Beret, Glove, Cover, Raincoat, Interpreter.
Content creator – A person who produces their own original content, usually pics or videos for sale.
Cornhole – Anus.
Cosplay – The wearing of costumes to act out a scenario.
Cougar/Sugarmamma – Older woman who prefers sex with younger men.
Courtesan/Muse – A SW who specializes in longer dates, accompanies clients on trips, overnights.
Copper T/Loop – A contraceptive device that is worn inside the uterus and prevents pregnancy.
COT – Cum on tits.
Cover – Condom, FL, Effy (ZA), Party Hat (UK), Franga (Aust), Beret, Glove, Raincoat, Interpreter.
Cowgirl/CG – Sex position where the girl is squatting on top facing the client.
CP – Child porn. There are anti-CP groups on every platform. The term is misleading in that minors are unable to give any form of consent by law. It is a crime to perform sexual acts with minors or the mentally handicapped in every country of the world.
CP – Corporal Punishment. See Impact Play.
Creampie/CIV – Cum inside vagina, when semen drips out of the vagina.
Cruising – Looking for streetworkers, usually driving.
CSAM – Child sexual abuse material, a serious crime (Children cannot consent to being in porn).
CUCK/Cuckold â A person aroused by watching their partner be intimate with someone else.
Cum – Orgasm.
Cunnilingus – Oral sex performed on a vagina. See DATY/RO.
Cups of coffee – Orgasms or releases (cum).
DAP – Digital Anal Probe (finger in anus).
Date – A session with a SW.
DATO – Dining at the O, Analingus.
DATY – Dining at the Y, Cunnilingus, RO.
DDE – Doesnât Do Extras.
DDG – Drop Dead Gorgeous.
DDP – Double Digit Penetration; using your fingers to penetrate the ass and vagina.
Decriminalization/Decrim – Removal of unfair or prejudicial treatment or laws against people and groups based on race, gender, age, or sexual orientation. Consenting adults who buy or sell sex are not committing a crime and providers are free to operate as they see fit and claim the same benefits as any other worker.
Deep Throat/DT – The art of letting some length slide into the throat without gagging.
Defender – A poster who âcomes to the rescueâ of a provider who has been reviewed poorly, regardless of whether the review is accurate. See White Knight.
Delulu – Derived from the world “delusional”, used on s/media to describe someone who holds unrealistic or overly idealistic beliefs or views.
Deposit – A provider requires an upfront payment to secure a session.
DFE – Dead Fish Experience.
DFF – Dead Fish Fuck.
DFK – Deep French Kissing with tongues.
DIY – Do It Yourself. Used to describe a massage where you are left to finish by masturbation.
Dom/Dominatrix â A Domineering/Dominant person.
Domination – Incorporates power play and submission in a way that sexually arouses the participants and does not usually involve intercourse.
Donation – Payment to a provider.
Demisexual –Â A demisexual does not experience sexual attraction toward someone unless they feel an emotional connection.
Diaphragm –Â Sitting over the cervix, a diaphragm is a contraceptive device that blocks sperm entering the uterus.
Doggy – A sexual position imitating dogs.
Dogging â Having sex in public places with an audience.
Douche â a) Washing of the vagina by spraying water inside, or b) an ignorant person (He/she is a …).
Doxx – To reveal private/confidential info or an identity.
Doxxed/Outed – Private, personal information on a client or provider is made public.
Doxxer – An untrustworthy, deceitful person who has no regard toward others privacy.
DP/Double Penetration – Having 2 penises/dildos in separate orifices or two in the same orifice.
DSL/CSL – Dick sucking lips/Cock sucking lips.
DTF – Down To Fuck. Someone who is up for casual sex.
Dungeon – A place where people can go to use a variety of BDSM apparatuses.
Duo â Two sex workers working as a team.
Edging â Reaching and sustaining arousal for long periods of time, see Gooning.
Electro play â Using electrical current to enhance pleasure.
Enema – Washing of the colon by spraying water inside.
Enhancements – Breast implants, butt implants, lip implants.
Escort – A person who exchanges companionship for money.
Extras – Refers to services such as a covered handjob, blowjob, anal or Full Service. Bareback is never an extra!
Face in – A provider who does not show their face on S/Media for privacy/security reasons.
Face out – A provider who does show their face on S/Media.
Facial/Face painting – Ejaculating on the face. Urban belief is it removes wrinkles, tightens skin tone?
Fanny – Ass, Butt (USA/CAN), Vagina (rest of the world).
FB/Fantasy Booker – Clients who make bookings with no intention of seeing the provider. Providers now demand deposits to kerb FB’s.
FBSM – Full Body Sensual Massage.
FBSM+ –Â Full Body Sensual Massage with a bonus. This can often be oral sex or extras.
FDAU – Face Down Ass Up.
Felching – Orally sucking semen from the anus. Opposite of eating a Creampie.
FE – Female Ejaculation, see squirting.
Fellatio – Oral sex. See BJ.
Fertility Temple – Couples wanting children will visit fertility temples, typically the temple will have phallic/sexual displays and aphrodisiacs on offer.
Fetish – A sexual fixation on a nonliving object or nongenital body part.
FFM/GGB â A threesome with a male and a female pleasuring a female. Note – The featured person is the middle letter.
FH – Full hour.
FIA – Finger In Ass.
Figging – Was once a method of punishment and is the insertion of a piece of skinned ginger root into the anus which causes an acute burning sensation. Â
Findom â Financial domination, handing over control of your finances.
FIR – Finger In Rear.
Fire And Ice – A blowjob where the SW switches between a hot drink and an iced one.
Fisting – Insertion of the whole fist either in vagina or anus (patience, gloves and lube are a must).
FIV – Finger In Vagina. Not without manicure, gloves, lube and consent. Be gentle!
FKK – Frei-KĂśrper-Kultur (German for âFree Body Cultureâ). A nudist venue or a European brothel.
FL – Condom, effy, effell (Africa), Cover, Franga (Aust), Party Hat, Raincoat (UK).
Fleshlight – A light up artificial silicone vagina for men.
FMF/GBG â A threesome with two females pleasuring a male.
FMTY – Fly me to you. The client pays for flights, hotels, taxi’s, meals etc.
FOB – Fresh Off the Boat. Usually means an immigrant or new to the area.
FOBU – Fat-Old-Bald-Ugly.
FOTC – Fuck Of The Century.
Foot Fetish –Â A sexual interest where a person is aroused by feet/toes/heels/shoes/boots etc.Â
Foot Job –Â A hand job, but using feet instead of hands.
FOSTA – Fight Online Sex Trafficking Act (USA).
FOV – Finger Outside Vagina.
Franga/Franger – (Aust) Term for condom, Hat, FL, Beret.
Freestyle – (v) Refers to a SW approaching potential clients on the street, in clubs, bars, casino’s etc.
French Service – Cunnilingus, licking and kissing of the vagina.
Frotting â Rubbing two penises against each other to achieve orgasm.
FS/Full Service – Commonly refers to penetration/intercourse.
FSC – Free Speech Coalition (USA), fighting for our rights, free speech.
FSSW â Full Service Sex Worker.
FT – Face time (video call).
Full meal deal/FS – Full Service, Vaginal intercourse to completion
Full service -Intercourse.
FUTB – Finger Up The Butt.
FWB – Friends with benefits, a sexual relationship that lacks clear definitions or commitment.
Gagging – A consensual act where a person is choked by a hand or object during sex.
GBG/FMF â A threesome with two females pleasuring a male.
Get Brain – A gobbie, BJ, oral sex performed on him.
GF3 – Girl Friend Experience w/all three holes.
GFE – Girlfriend Experience. This term is a can of worms – there is much confusion exactly what this implies and varies from provider to provider, client to client. Check with your provider 1st. Most providers are of the opinon that GFE, GFE+ and PSE are styles and not actions. GFE would be a caring type style, while PSE is a more wild style. Neither mean X, Y, Z will happen – but moreso you would leave feeling A or B.
GFE+ – Contrary to what you you read on Reddit, this DOES NOT include unprotected/uncovered sex! It usually implies not clock watching, extras, dinners etc. Ask your provider 1st!
GGB/FFM â A threesome with a male and a female pleasuring a female.
Ghosting – To disappear without warning.
Gigolo â A mature male sex worker.
GILF â âGran I‘d Like to Fuckâ, an older woman fantasy.
Gloryhole – A hole in a wall/door through which a man puts his penis to be pleasured by a stranger.
Glove – Another word for condom.
GND – Girl Next Door.
Gooned – Drunk (Aust), Vrot, gesuip (ZA). He/she is …….
Gooning – a) Maintaining sexual arousal without reaching orgasm for a long period of time, resulting in a hypnotic, trance-like state. b) An American form of legal kidnapping in which parents hire rehabilitation organizations to seize children they perceive as troubled and transport them to boot camps.
Greek Service/Style – Anal sex.
GS/Golden Shower – Urinating on another person.
GSM – G–Spot Massage.
Happy ending/HE â Being made to orgasm at the end of a massage. See Rub and tug massage.
Hat – Condom, FL (ZA), Franga (Aust), Glove.
HDH – High Dollar Hottie.
Headlights – Nipples.
Heterosexual â A person who is attracted to the opposite sex.
H – 1 hour.
HH – Half Hour.
HHHJ –Â Half Hearted Hand Job.
Hickey/Love bite – A bruise that occurs when you suck on a piece of skin and damage the blood vessels underneath.
Hidden charges – A provider might undress and give a massage for the advertised $, but then ask for an additional $ for French, or $$ for FS, etc.
HJ/Hand Job/Beef Jerky – Orgasm by hand.
HM – High Mileage.
HME – Honeymoon experience. A dirty weekend/week.
Hobbyist – A person who sees prostitutes as a hobby. Hobbyists exchange money for orgasms. See Client.
Hooker – Prostitute, Street Walker, Escort, Lady of the Night, Slapper, Call-girl, Courtesan, Muse, Harlot, Whore, Strumpet.
HSW – Hispanic Street Walker.
HTUMA – Her Tongue Up My Ass, analingus, a rim job.
HVM – High value man.
HWP – Height and Weight Proportionate.
IC/In-call – When a client goes to the SW.
Impact Play – Commonly known as CP (Corporal Punishment) refers to using whips, paddles, canes etc.
INCEL â Involuntary Celibate, people who are celibate not by choice. Sometimes called “bye-sexual”.
Independent/Indie – A SW who works on their own, without an agency affiliation.
Interpreter – Condom.
Intersex – Refers to people born with, or who develop sex characteristics which are not typically male or female.
Italian – Sexual activity where the penis rubs between butt cheeks.
ISO – In Search Of.
Jack Shack – Refers to an establishment that is not full service, expect only massage (usually nude or topless) and hand jobs.
Jimmy Hat – A condom, franger, FL, cover, raincoat.
John – A man who patronizes prostitutes, also client/punter/kerb crawler/brothel creeper.
Kink/y – The use of non-conventional sexual practices, concepts or fantasies.
Knife play â Using knives or swords to enhance arousal.
L1,L2,L3 – Slang for L1) Handjob, L2) blowjob, L3) full service.
Ladyboy â Young male sex workers who dress as women.
Landing lights – Tattoos on a persons thighs.
Lapdog – A customer who worships SW’s to excess.
LD –Â Lap Dance.
LDL – Low Dollar Looker. Cheap and unattractive, the opposite of a HDH.
LE/PD/Ellie/Vice – Law Enforcement, Police Dept.
Legalisation – When sex work is legalised, licensed, or regulated it means itâs only permitted under licence, in certain circumstances in restricted areas, times etc. People who buy or sell sex outside of the rules would be breaking the law and subject to arrest. These rules often make #SW more difficult and dangerous because workers are forced to work in ways they normally wouldn’t.
LEO – Law Enforcement Officer. See LE.
LGBTQI – Lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, queer (questioning one’s sexual or gender identity), intersex.
Low Restriction – This basically means you can do anything you want sexually.
LFK – Light French kissing.
LK – Light Kissing, usually performed with a closed mouth.
LMP – Latina Massage Parlour.
Loop – See Copper T.
LOS – Land Of Smiles (Thailand).
Lovense â Remote controlled vibrating toys. Now boycotted due to posting pedofile ads on Twitter on 11/08/23.
Lot Lizard – SW who operates out of truck stops or other trucker hangouts.
LSB –Â Lap Sup Bar (low class bar).
LT – Long Time (usually means overnight).
LTR – Long Term Relationship.
Madam – A female manager of a brothel.
Mamasan – A female manager of a massage parlour.
MBR – Multiple Bell Ringing (see MSOG), multiple orgasm.
Merkin – Pubic hair wig.
MFF/BGG â A threesome involving a Male and a Female pleasuring a Female.
MFM/BGB â A threesome with two males pleasuring a female. See also BBQ.
Milage – Good mileage usually means the SW charges less than average.
Mile-High Club – A person joins the fictional “mile-high club” when they have sex on an airplane.
MILF â âMom I‘d Like to Fuckâ, an older woman fantasy.
Milking table – Usually refers to a massage plus BJ/HJ. A massage table with a hole cut out at the right spot to be able to service the one being massaged from underneath.
Mish/Missionary – Sexual position with the male on top, female on her back.
Mistress – The girlfriend of a married man.
MMF/BBG â A threesome with a male and a female pleasuring a male.
Mohawk/Landing Strip – A thin rectangular strip of pubic hair.
Motorboating –Â When you put your face between two breasts and blow with your mouth or lips, making a the sound of a motorboat.
MP – (n) Massage Parlour as well as (v) Multiple Pops/MSOG (more than one âreleaseâ).
MPOS – Mobile point of sale.
MSOG/Multiple Pops – Multiple Shots On Goal or multiple times to cum.
NCNS – No call, no show. Clients who don’t cancel and then don’t show up, this is why most providers now insist on deposits and also implement cancellation fees. You lose your deposit and the provider loses hours of income plus the time they already invested in messaging, screening etc.
NCOSE – National Center on Sexual Exploitation (USA). Doesn’t know the difference between SW and trafficking and claims that all SW are traffickers.
NDA – Non disclosure agreement, a secrecy agreement or document.
Needle play â Using needles to create arousal.
Netflix & Chill – Casual sex (USA), Bang, Bump (UK), Naai, Pomp (ZA).
Nordic Model – Also known as the Sex Buyer Law, Swedish, Abolitionist, or Equality Model. It decriminalises those who are prostituted, provides support services to them, and makes buying sex a criminal offence.
Non-Pro – An amateur SW, not a professional sex worker.
NOSTR – A Social Media network devoid of restrictions which has channels for different topics. The Adult Industry channel is adult.18plus.social.
NQNS – Non-Quitter Non Spitter (Used by SW’s to describe a man who just never ejaculates).
NSA – No Strings Attached (casual sex), see BANG.
NSFW – Not safe for work, view at work and risk being fired.
NURU – A form of Japanese massage with full body contact, while both the masseur/masseuse and client are nude and coated with gel.
NUT – To ejaculate.
Nyctophile – A person who enjoys dark places.
OC – Out call. The provider comes to you.
Off the clock/OTC – Activities that a provider chooses not to charge for. (e.g. âWe had lunch off-the-clockâ)
OKP/Or-Kui-Poh â A Female pimp in Hokkien, a Chinese dialect, but sometimes people use OKP/OKT to describe a supervisory person in a spa.
OKT/Or-Kui-Tao â A male pimp in Hokkien, see OKP.
OMFIAMP – One Manâs Food Is Another Manâs Poison, (pronounced âOhm-Famâ).
ONS – One night stand.
Opacarophile – Someone who loves the sun.
Orbiting – Â When an ex-partner continues to like your social media posts, watching your social media stories etc, with the goal of letting you know theyâre still around.
OTK – Over the knee.
Otter â Usually refers to a man of smaller frame with a lot of body hair.
OWO – Oral Without condom (See BBBJ).
OWOTC –Â Oral Without Condom To Completion.
Outcall – When a provider comes to the client, usually at a hotel room or to their residence.
Outed/Doxxed – Someoneâs real ID is posted to a public forum.
Pander – To procure sexual favors for somebody.
Pansexual –Â A sexual orientation where you are attracted to people of any gender identity.
Party friendly/420 Friendly/Herb friendly – This typically means they smoke weed or use other drugs.
P2P/PTP – Private to Private, performed without a condom where the man rubs his penis on a SW’s vagina without penetration.
Papasan – The male manager of a Massage Parlour.
Papers – STD tests, eg. Show me your papers.
Pash and Dash/random – A one night stand or casual encounter.
Party Hat – A condom.
Paypig/Cash Cochon – A BDSM term for a submissive, almost always male who has consented to financial servitude towards his Mistress. Example – My paypig bought me a $400 salon voucher today after I demanded him to.
Pearl Necklace – Ejaculation on the chest of a woman. See also COB.
Pegging – Using a strap-on dildo to penetrate someone anally.
Penis – Cock (USA), Nob, Todger (UK), Piel (ZA).
PFF – Pussy For Free.
PIM â Penis in mouth.
Pimp – A (usually) male manager of one or more street workers.
Pinay – A Philippino Girl.
PIR â Penis in Rectum.
Piss play – See watersports, can include drinking urine etc.
PIV â Penis in vagina.
PL – Pathetic Loser.
Pluviophile – A person who loves the rain.
PM – Either a) Prostate Massage or b) Private Message (inbox).
PO/PA – Phone Operator; usually the person who takes a booking.
Polly Waffle – UK Slang for brothel.
Pooner – A hobbyist who is immersed in the hobby culture.
POS – a) Point of sale (a c/card machine), or b) Piece of shit.
PS – Private Show (usually a lap dance).
PSE – Porn Star Experience. Usually a private show with sex toys, or a Duo putting on a live show. NOTE – Providers are loathe to offer true porn experiences as porn nowadays typically involves bareback, anal, slapping, strangulation, spitting etc.
PW – Pussy Whipped (A man controlled by a woman).
PV –Â Private Viewing (a one-to-one show).
PYT – Pretty Young Thing.
Queefing (USA)/Fanny fart –Â A noise that can come out of a vagina during sex as a result of air building up inside the vagina.
RA – Relaxation Assistant, a masseuse.
Rainbow Kiss –Â When you take period blood and semen into your respective mouths and mix them together during your kiss.
Raincoat – Condom/FL/Hat/Effy/Franger/Umbrella.
Raw/Raw dogging – See bareback.
Rent Boy â A young male sex worker.
Reply Guy – A social media lap dog begging for attention, see SIMP/WUSS.
Reverse Cowgirl/RCG – A sexual position with the girl on op, facing away from her partner.
Reverse Oral/RO – Cunnilingus, licking and kissing of the female parts, see – French Service.
Reverse Massage – Describes when the client gets to massage the RA or SW. Not recommended as this frequently results in injuries.
Rimming – Analingus, Licking of the rectum area (After proper cleaning).
Rizzy -AÂ freedom-loving and free-spirited individual.
RLD – Red light district.
RMP – Russian Massage Parlour.
RO – Reverse Oral. See DATY, French service.
ROB – Rip Off Bitch, a SWwho scams or cheats clients.
Roman – An orgy.
Roman Shower – Messy play with vomit. (Look up Vomitorium for a laugh, our ancestors were disgusting).
Rough Sex –Â This term typically involves certain forms of BDSM play or aggressive play and dirty talk.
Roses – $100 bills. 4 roses equals $400.
RSVP – Risk for Sexual Violence Protocol. A guide for the assessment of those who have committed sexual offences.
Rusty Trombone –Â When someone performs both a rim job and a hand job at the same time.
RPG – Role Playing Games.
RTFF – Read the fukin forum. A reference to go back and read what was already said. To start paying attention to the topic.
Rub and tug massage – Refers to a happy ending massage.
Russian/Spanish Service/Style – Commonly known as a tit wank or cleavage massage.
Russian in Australia – A short sex session, aka a âQuickieâ.
Safe – Sexual activity in which the use of condoms/dental dams etc, are used to avoid STI’s/STD’s.
Safe Word –Â A pre-determined word that participants use to signal an abrupt end to an activity.
Sandbag/Sandbagger –Â A term for a review/reviewer that misleads the reader by giving false praise to a provider. See Self posting.
San Juan/BBBJTC/BBBJTCIM/ – Bare Back Blow Job to Completion in mouth.
SB – Shadow Ban, to have your social media account reach limited by the site algorythm. Mentioning crypto, anything NSFW, hate speech etc will trigger a SB.
SBSW – Street based sex worker. Sex workers who freestyle in public places, avoid using terms like hooker/prostitute/whore as these terms stigmatize #SW.
SC – Strip Club.
Scat/Feces (USA)/Faeces (UK/ZA/NZ/AUS) – Defecation on your partner or feces play.
Scissoring â Rubbing two clitoris against each other to achieve orgasm.
Screening – A backround check to determine if someone is safe to see. See Verify/Vetting.
SDE – Small dick energy. Insecure people who need constant affirmation and attention, sending unsolicited nude pics is a classic example.
Self posting – A provider or agency poses as a hobbyist, and posts highly positive reviews of themselves or the agency, or using multiple SM accounts to promote each other and increase business.
Self-Service – See DIY, masturbate.
Selenophile – A person who loves the moon.
Semi-Pro – A SW who works part-time.
Sensual Dominatrix â A Dominatrix who offers BDSM plus tie and tease, edging etc.
SESTA (USA) – Stop Enabling Sex Traffickers Act.
Session – Paid time spent with a SW.
Sex-repulsed – This refers to someone that finds sex disgusting and revolting.
SFH – Sex for hire.
SFW – Safe for work, OK to view at work and not get fired.
SG – Street Girl/s. An ageist term, women do not like being reffered to as girls.
Shadowban/SB – Account silencing. The posts of an account that has a shadowban will not be viewed, the DMs sent by these accounts do not reach the user they have been sent to, and the users followed by these accounts do not get a notification. Very frustrating for all #SW.
Shemale – A male to female Transsexual. See also TS/TG, Chicks with dicks.
Shill – Used to describe an insider who poses on forums or review sites as a satisfied customer.
Shrimping –Â Sucking on a partnerâs toes.
SIMP – Aperson who is desperate for the attention and affection of someone else, see Reply-guy/Wuss.
Sissy/Sissification – Males dress as females with wigs, heels, dresses, makeup etc to feel how it is to be a woman for the day. Previous generations used this term to describe effeminate males/gay males.
Situationship – A romantic relationship that lacks clear definitions or commitment.
SM – Social media.
Snowballing – Swapping cum during kissing after CIM.
SO – a) Significant Other (bf/gf/wife etc) or b) Sex Offender.
Soapland – A brothel in Japan that involves bathing.
Social Proof – Providers paste screenshots of their fans talking about how much they love them, or their content. It works as a 5 star review and attracts more fans.
SOF – Shit on Floor.
SOG – Shot On Goal, a single release, orgasm or cum shot.
Soixante neuf – 69 in French.
Solicitation – The act of convincing another person to commit a crime.
SOMF – Sit On My Face.
South of The Border – Any genital region.
Spanish in Australia – Penis between breasts, see Tit wank/Cleavage massage.
Spanish service – see Tit wank/Cleavage massage where breasts are used instead of hands.
Sponge – An absorbent item inserted into the vagina during a menstrual cycle.
Spinner – Term used to describe a very petite and thin girl.
Squirting â Female ejaculation, NOT urination.
SRS – Sexual reassignment surgery.
Starfish – Can refer to both a) the anus, or b) a person that is unresponsive in bed.
STD â Sexually Transmitted Disease.
Stealth – To betray a provider by a) filming/recording without permission, or WORSE – To b) remove a condom without telling the provider.
STI â Sexually Transmitted Infection.
Sting – A police officer poses as a SW to apprehend unsuspecting clients, or a police officer poses as a john to apprehend unsuspecting SW.
Strap on – A dildo that includes a harness you wear around your hips.
Stripper slide – A SW slides her vagina back and forth across male genitalia uncovered.
Sub â A Submissive person.
Submarining –Â When an ex reappears in your life and acts like nothing happened.
Subs – Subscribers.
Summer teeth – A SW who has teeth missing – some are there, some are not.
Sunshine/Sunny – Uncovered, bareback.
SW/SP – a) Sex Worker, b) Service Provider, sometimes refers toc) Street Walker. Acceptable terms – Worker, provider, companion. Not acceptable – Hooker, whore, prostitute.
SWAG – Someone Who Admires God.
SWERF – Sex Worker-Exclusionary Radical Feminist – A feminist who opposes the sex industry, also sometimes used to describe anyone who opposes #SW.
SWOP – Sex Workers Outreach Program.
Sybian -A mechanical sex device that is in the shape of half-barrel with a vibrator mounted on top.
SYT – Sweet young thing.
Take care of business – To pay a SW.
TAMP – Therapeutic Asian Massage Parlour, not an AMP!
Tantric â An Eastern method using meditation techniques to enjoy the sexual sensations of the body.
Teabag –Â A man puts his balls in his partnerâs mouth.
Temperature Play –Â A consensual form of BDSM play that uses heat or cold to heighten arousal.
TERF â Trans-Exclusionary Radical Feminist. A person whosâ views are hostile towards transgender people.
TG – Transgender (see TS).
TGTBT –Â Too Good To Be True.
Thicc/Thick – An overweight person.
Thigh Job –Â The sex act is similar to a hand job or a foot job, but you use the thighs instead.
Throne job – Self-service hand job in an establishment that doesnât offer FS. The premises will have a large chair or âthroneâ for you to sit on and masturbate while watching a show.
Tit wank/Cleavage massage â Sometimes called a Russian or Spanish Service.
TLD – Topless Lap Dance.
TLDR – Stands for “Too Long Didn’t Read.” and commonly found in SM posts responding to tedious posts.
TLN – Toda La Noche (âAll Night longâ in Spanish)
TOFTT – Take One For The Team. Used in forums to describe when a hobbyist visits an unverified SWÂ to provide feedback for the group.
Tog – Photographer.
TOS – a) Terms of service, b) Take out service.
Tossing Salad – Analingus.
Top – A person who prefers to be in control during sex.
Tramp stamp – A tatoo on the lower back/butt.
Tranny/Trans – A person whose gender identity does not correspond with the sex registered for them at birth.
Transactional – The giving of gifts or services in exchange for sex.
Trick – A client.
Trip to the Islands – Anal sex (refers to Greek).
Troll – Rude and/or ugly person.
TS – Transsexual. Someone who does not identify with the sex registered for them at birth.
TUMA – Tongue Up My Ass, Analingus.
Turn trick – A sex act for money.
TV – Transvestite. Someone who cross dresses.
Twig – A thin person.
Two call system – For incall locations. Your first call is to set up the time and get the general directions on where to park. Your second call is made when you arrive to get the specific address/room number.
TWOT – Total waste of time. Can refer to a person or activity.
Umbrella – Condom.
Uncovered – Sex without a condom (oral, vaginal or anal). See BB/Bareback, Not recommended.
Unicorn â A single person who is out of your league.
Upsell – To add more options for more money.
UTF – Untranslated French, a blowjob without a condom. See BBBJ
UTR – Under The Radar. Someone who does not advertise.
Vagina – Kitty, Pussy (USA), Padda, Poes (ZA), Muff (UK).
Vanilla – A person or thing that is very plain and unexciting.
VER â A person who can alternate between being dominant and submissive.
Verify/Vetting – Proof of Identity, Age, criminal backround etc.
Verify client – Proof of age, ID to be checked against blacklists.
Verify provider – Providers DO NOT provide ID’s, Video calls etc, verification is done by checking verified profiles on sites such as this.
VFM – Value For Money.
VGFE/Virtual GFE – A provider is paid to be a virtual online “girlfriend” by messaging/texting/video only.
WAH – Wild Ass Humping.
WF – Wild Fuck.
WG – Working girl. A SW/Call girl/prostitute.
Whore monger – One who habitually patronizes prostitutes.
WIR – a) Would I Repeat, b) Would I Return, c) Would I Recommend.
WK –Â White Knight, A review board poster who defends a provider who has been reviewed poorly, regardless of whether the review is accurate.
WS/WaterSports â See Golden Shower, can include piss play e.g. drinking urine.
WUSS – Aperson who is desperate for the attention or affection of someone else, see Reply-guy/SIMP.
XO – (X) Kiss, (O) Hug
YMMV – Your Mileage May Vary. A term used to describe service levels that are inconsistent or where an establishment or SW does not always perform sexual services.
We hope these definitions help you understand the lingo commonly used online and not stick out like a “dweeb”, unfortunately some platforms have their own interpretations of sexual terms but these should help make you understood pretty much anywhere.
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