How to become a male escort for women

Every day guys are asking “How do I become a male escort for women?”
F*cking women all day and getting paid for it sounds like the ideal job?
Well, it depends….
1st you need a 10+ inch cock!

Just kidding, your cock is actually irrelevant. The best lovers are guys who are empathetic, sympathetic, caring & have an above average understanding of how a woman’s body and mind works, what turns them on, let’s them decide the boundries in the bedroom, doesn’t push them into doing anything they aren’t crazy about, listens to them and tries to improve himself.

This article is aimed at those guys wanting to companion women for money.

If you are bi or gay please stop reading now as “the game” is completely different for bi and gay male escorts, AND they make shitloads more money.

Male escorts (Gigolos) are born, not made!
You can’t “learn” to be a cishet male escort, there are no manuals, no guidelines, no union.
This article is to try to explain and explode some of the myths, rumors and misconceptions surrounding cishet male escorts.

99% of cishet male escort “ads” are nothing more than hobbyists trying to emulate gay and bi male escorts.
By thinking that the target audience is the same, and giving the industry a very bad name at the same time, they are only making fools of themselves.

Movies like “American Gigolo (1980)”, “Deuce Bigalow (1999)”, “Deuce Bigalow 2 (2005)” are probably more indicative of the true lifestyle of cishet male escorts and did give some insight into the lives of these elusive “Sigma males”.

More recently TV series like “American Gigolo (2018?)” (based on the 1980 movie) and a “reality” (lol) series called “Gigolos in Vegas (2016?)” are worth watching for some extra insight.

Movies called “Loverboy (1989)”, “Fading Gigolo (2013)” highlight how easily an ordinary male can inadvertantly become a cishet male escort, given the right circumstances.

The majority of men are all on the exact same playing field when it comes to looks.
Women don’t view male attractiveness as a purely physical equation.
Your humor, voice, smell, charisma, kindness, maturity, mentality, skills, potential, manners, how you treat her/others/animals/kids, your love language, drive, ambition, nature, empathy, and so many other things dictate how “attractive” you are.

The majority of married men aren’t 6’+ and making six figures+.

The “hot guy” is an absolutely minuscule portion of the population, yes they do get attention, but if they don’t have the qualities above, the attraction fades fast.

Facts –
The majority of cishet male ads ARE NOT real escorts!
Hobbyists think it’s a cool idea to enter the industry and try to copy female/trans/bi escorts thinking that it’s all the same thing.

It’s not a full-time job, never was, never will be. Guys who specialize in women usually need to have other sources of income.
If you are good and women like you – They refer you to their friends and so your circle grows.

Very often the “good” guys don’t have the need to advertise – word of mouth is a very powerful business tool.

Discretion is everything, you won’t see us on social media complaining about clients, bragging, or aguing over trivial nonsense.

Posting pictures of your trips, presents, cars, muscles etc is regarded as “very tacky”, “vain” by female clients.

Posting naked (dick) pics is seen as “slutty”, “cheap” and “in poor taste”, and often the reason why most “male escorts” struggle to find female clients (They simply don’t understand their market).

Being “incognito” is vital, most women don’t want to be seen with someone who is recognizable or “attention seeking”.

Female sex workers don’t regard us as sex workers – even bi male escorts often get kicked out of conversations, forums etc because female sex workers simply don’t realize that there are many more forms of sex work than they realize, or that we are on the same team, or they wrongly assume “those ads” are real providers, the same could be said for the mutitudes of E*Whoring profiles on social media/sites.

It gets even weirder when you see posts on Xwitter every day proclaming that male porn stars/collaberators are not real sex workers.

Many male escorts don’t have a need to advertise – Word of mouth & sugaring keep you busy.
Especially as you get to know escort agencies, collabs, hotel managers, restuarant owners, barmen, resort managers, travel agents etc, who will boost your business – because they already know you will bring them more high class business.

Yes, there are a few male escort agencies for women – Cowboys 4 Angels is a large agency in the USA, they are swamped with applicants and the chances of being accepted are about as much as being offered a seat in Indycar Racing.
Note how many profiles on that site have no pics at all?

Do you have a lot of female friends?
Do these women invite you over for dinners sothat they can f*ck you?
Can you make women laugh without even thinking about it?
Do your female friends like buying you gifts?
Do you respect and admire women?
Are you non-judgemental? Non-ageist? Non-racist?
Are you a snappy dresser, well groomed, athletic, clean?
Can you blend into any conversation without making an ass of yourself?
Are you handy? Can you fix just about anything?
Do all animals love you?
Are women fascinated by you? Curious to know more about you?
Are you well mannered, respectful, articulate, easy going?
Can you dance? Have a broad taste in music?
Do you have your own sense of style?
Are you a great listener?
Can you “read” womens body language? (most guys struggle just understanding women).
Have you ever had an STI screening?
Have you used male & female condoms?
Are your friends jealous of the way women approach you?
Do you know what endometriosis is?
Do women say “WOW”, “I never had this before”, “where did you learn that?” etc after sex?

Now you’re getting the idea, if your answer was “yes” to all of these questions you’re on your way.
These are some of the qualities you need to be successful as a (cishet) male escort.

Cishet male escorts are like chameleons, able to adapt to the situation at hand without attracting attention to themselves, being able to act naturally much like a real spy would do (No – James Bond would NEVER make a good spy or escort).

You could be a gardner one day, a driver the next, the next a bodyguard or stand-in boyfriend, handyman or assistant.
Your “job” is to make women feel good, enjoy themselves, and look good in public, do it right and the rest will follow.

1st you need a persona (a stage name), check that noboy else is using that name by Googling it.
A guide to creating your persona.

Create listing accounts listing your rates, availability, skills as well as social media accounts for your persona (the sooner you do this and start interacting with people the more “real” you become).

Write about your abilities (not sexual), hobbies and interests – it helps women understand you and gives them a common ground (I always mentioned I was a Scuba Instructor/Photographer and that got a LOT of very expensive “away trips” with businesswomen, Travel Agents etc, (plus I was able to sell my pics to travel magazines).

If you’re handy – can fix computers, cars, household stuff?, Instructor, Masseuse, Photographer, Bodyguard? it gives women an excuse to contact you, very often you don’t even get around to seeing the “problem item”.

Photos – Make sure your pics are professional quality, too many ads have low quality pics and it just looks shitty – women see this as a hobbyist trying to get free pussy.

Do not show your face or dick on any of these accounts, unless you want a ton of guys harassing you.
Showing your face will get you “doxxed” – eventually.

Do not advertise “services” or “price for DATY” etc. It’s regarded as “slutty”.
These are better seen as “free optional extras”, and hey if you end up only cleaning a pool/eating out/partying for $400 – so be it.
$400 in the hand is better than $0, next time she’ll want more and tell her friends, so take it easy and the rest will come.
Tip – If you’re not selling sex – You can’t be arrested for it!

Reviews & Testimonials
Avoid reviews, if you do, allow them make sure they are 100% genuine, (what’s with all the fake reviews guys?) delete anything sexual in your reviews.

Google male escort agencies in your area, see if they will list you.
Leave your info with all local escort agencies and see what happens.

Tip – If your mom wouldn’t approve your ad content – You’re doing it wrong!

Tip 2 – Introduce yourself to local escort agencies, women do sometimes contact them, or they may need a chaperone, a collab at some point.

Showing your face nowdays is a huge no-no, facial recognition, social media monitoring etc can mean losing your bank accounts & visa’s, being arrested, beaten up etc.

Buy yourself a 2nd phone and use that phone for your business name.
Do not conduct business appointments on your phone, you need an email account for your persona, preferrably on your own site which can’t be monitored.

Rule 1 – Always get the cash up front!
Count it, check it properly. If it’s electronic make sure it’s deposited and move it into another account.

Rule 2 – Condoms always!
Your health should be your #1 priority ALWAYS!
There are just too many diseases and infections going round, most of them take a long time to manifest, people lie all the time – esp those wanting to get pregnant, also many women think they are infertile when the problem actually lies with their partners.
Tip – Female condoms are great as you can’t feel them and they work with male condoms and for DATY too!

Rule 3 – Get STD tested – Regularly.
Most STD’s take a long time to show symptoms, often too late!
The sooner you get treatment – the better. Here in South Africa condoms, STI testing, circumcisions, treatment are free at any State Health clinic.
You owe it to yourself and your clients.

Rule 4 – Never lose your cool!
Women/strange situations will take you places nobody wants to go – Just walk away with dignity.

Rule 5 – Business always!
Married women will want to leave to leave their husbands for you, stalk you, and make your life hell if you don’t set “THE RULES” from the outset.
You will be the one branded as a “homewrecker” if you don’t.

Rule 6 – Never do anything without consent.
Don’t ever assume a woman is ok with anything you haven’t discussed first.
Good cishet male escorts are masters of consent, boundaries, discretion, empathy, & secrecy.

Rule 7 – Never try to force a woman to do anything she is unsure about.
If she’s not enthusiastic – just can the idea.
She will tell her friends, the cops and anyone who will listen that you are an abuser.

Rule 8 – Never go from ass to vag or mouth!
This is guaranteed to cause a UTI, mouth & throat infections, diarrhoea etc.
If you do – Change condoms 1st, or better, use male & female condoms combined.

Rule 9 – If in doubt, GET OUT!
Trust your gut, it’s better to live and fight another day.
You’re no good to anyone if you’re dead.

Rule 10 – Always have a plan B for every situation.
I once spent a week sleeping in Changi airport over Chinese new year – long embarrasing story which taught me a valuable lesson.

Rule 11 – Avoid outcalls with new clients.
Be careful! Angry husbands have guns, drunk friends and dogs.

Rule 12 – Never invite clients to your home.
Always meet at a neutral place. Clients are sometimes followed or can become stalkers, start fights outside your home etc.

Rule 13 – Husbands and boyfriends are enemy #1.
They are unpredicable and dangerous and are 100% convinced you are trying to steal their women away from them.
Many husbands will want a “cuck” or MFM scenario but are unable to remain in character – GTFO.

Rule 14 – Never admit to what you are.
Nobody actually believes you, and it just makes angry bf’s/husbands even more angry to think “their woman” would actually pay a professional for a good time –
It’s better to lie and say you picked her up in a bar and thought she was single.

Rule 15 – Never discuss other providers or clients or friends.
Not with anyone, not even your best friends – It will backfire on you.
Friends won’t understand and will bring it up at the most embarrasing moments.

Rule 16 – Cool it with the drugs and alcohol.
Inebriated people do stupid shit you will regret later.
Too much drugs and alcohol don’t do you any favors sexually either.

Rule 17 – If you are feeling sick, postpone the appointment.
The money is hard to refuse but don’t risk being branded as a disease spreader.

Rule 18 – Grooming is important.
Women really appreciate a clean, well groomed man.
Exercise, pamper your skin, nails, hair, pubes and women definitely do notice.

One co-worker (looked like Rambo) refused to wash his long hair regularly as he believed it was unhealthy, women told me he would have had a LOT more interest if only his hair wasn’t “greasy”, he didn’t hold his drink well either which only made it much worse – he didn’t last.

Rule 19 – Don’t overdo the grooming products.
A woman’s sense of smell is far better than a man’s, also a woman’s nose is one of the first alerts that her partner is cheating.
Tip – Try Aramis grooming products if you really want to freak women out.

Rule 20 – Learn to do massage.
It’s not as easy or simple as you think, there are many types of massage and you can actually do a lot of damage if you do it wrong!
Get massage classes, add it to your resume. Women love it!