Escort Booking advice

If your chosen provider meets the following you can relax –
1) Does she/he have a personal website?
2) Does she/he have at least one verified listed ad online?
3) Does she/he have active social media? (Not just reposting other’s ads)
4) Does she/he often engage with other colleagues and followers online?
5) What do her/his reviews say?
6) Do the pics match and look real?
7) Do they have a promo video?

The following are all red flags –
1) Looks like a Playboy/Playgirl bunny and charges way less than industry average.
2) Multiple active ads in different cities? – check the dates.
3) “available now” – Nobody is available now (For appointment booking maybe?).
4) Google search their images and results are famous models , influencers or multiple different social media accounts.
5) Different people are pictured on the same account.
6) Their promo video is somebody else.
7) The pics look odd – look carefully at the hands (fingers), hair (airbrushed), skin (plastic), no marks/scars, no tattoos? AI pics are everywhere and fool most people.
Look at the fingers/hair/skin/railing on these fake “AI escorts” a scammer posted on Facebook –

When contacting an escort, it is a good idea to provide some information about you.
A polite introduction is very helpful as part of getting through any decent screening process from a quality escort.

“Are you available?”, “Hey”, “WYD” etc are NOT polite introductions and you may be blocked immediately!

This is what an introduction message should look like:
Hi my name is _____ my FB/Twitter name is_____ I am ____yrs old, I found you on Adult Services and would like to see you on ____(day) at ____(time) for ____(hours).

Be aware that most providers WILL NOT cater for clients under the age of 23.

Asking for an appointment the same day will usually not work either – Providers need time to prepare and to check your backround. Trying to force a meeting could get you blocked.

Available now – Does not mean the provider is waiting for your boner, “available now” means they are available to accept bookings. Please refer to our dictionary if you are unsure of the terms used.

Providers don’t need to know your sexual history, marital status, kids etc, etc.

The best advice is to decide what you are looking for and then narrow your searches to providers who offer the services you require.

Always clarify what you are looking for without going into a 2-page essay. Just enough information for the provider to confirm they can cover your requirements. It is a good idea to do this upon first communication so you don’t end up wasting time. Do this on the site or by email.

First introductions, and appointment service questions/details must be discussed solely via e-mail, even if you have met before. Texting will be used solely to confirm the where’s and when’s of your booking.

Do Not ask for same day service unless it is offered! This is considered disrespectful and rude, providers need time to prepare for bookings and to do screening etc.
Let’s be honest – You will still be horny in a days/weeks time!

Don’t contact a companion until you are ready to book with a date, time and your screening/deposit ready. This is a business and time is valuable, show them you respect them and their time.

Make sure you familiarize yourself with their booking requirements before you reach out. If you are unwilling to meet them, move on to someone else who is willing to provide what you are looking for.
Follow their directions the first time they ask. Going back and forth over prices, or anything else will surely be a quick way for them to not want to meet.

Do NOT ask questions about bedroom activities and what they do/don’t do via txt. This is entrapment and will get you ignored/blocked in most cases.
Be respectful! A gentleman never goes out of style. Want to stand out? Send her something from her wishlist before meeting, don’t show up empty handed when you meet. It’s the thought that counts! I guarantee making her smile and being thoughtful will get you further.

By the same token – Don’t ask for verification ID, Video or pics – you will be blocked! Providers spend a lot of time and effort getting verified online and the last thing they will do is give their personal info to a stranger.

Research the providers links and check that they are real (a few months old), read their sites and reviews and be mindfull that clients are not always kind or respectful. The boards are full of clients complaining because they didn’t do any homework and contacted the cheapest provider! The better the provider, the more the price! High end providers do this on purpose to keep volume down and client quality up.

The nicer you treat her outside the bedroom, the naughtier she’ll get inside the bedroom.

Any real provider will require you to provide proof of who you are, and possibly your place of work as well as any S/M profiles you may have. This is done sothat the provider is happy you are who you say you are and are safe to see. Be sure to ask whether the provider will retain or delete your data.

If they don’t ask for proof of ID – Be wary of scammers, LE.

Many clients refuse to screen, or supply false info, or even “share” with a buddy. What they don’t realize is that screening is also a test of your compliance, obedience, transparency, personality etc.

A provider can/will refuse your business on any grounds, it could be as simple as they don’t like the “vibe” they’re getting from you – Don’t take it personally.

Sometimes clients tell us stories of having being caught, and it is NEVER because they screened, but because of their actions – They are sloppy and leave paper trails, don’t delete text/emails, leave computers/phones open… Screening is not your biggest risk, YOU are.

Meeting for coffee/food in public IS NOT screening.
Face time IS NOT screening.
Sending ANY AMOUNT of cash IS NOT screening.
LinkedIn IS NOT screening.
Passing screening isn’t a guarantee.

– Your companion feels safe and comfortable.
– Your companion is not anxious and looking over their shoulder.
– Your companion likes you more and looks forward to meeting you.
– YOU have a better experience.

Ask yourself – Would I rent/lend my car/house/gun/gf to somebody I knew nothing about?
In the same way providers need to re-assure themselves before risking their lives with a stranger. You may well be a “good guy” but Twitter/Reddit/Xpurity is full of pics of escorts who have been savagely beaten and left for dead.
Anyone who tells you he is trustworthy is NOT trustworthy, same goes for guys who have tell people how “safe” or “honest” they are.

In order to get “Verified” status on websites the provider has to provide proof of ID. We strongly recommend you check to see that your chosen provider has been verified on at least one site. If the provider has no verification you are skating on very thin ice.

Asking a verified provider for proof of ID by pic or video is considered rude, timewasting, disrespectful, and likely to get you blocked. (Most of our listings already have promo videos so you can get an idea of what they are like).

From one of our providers – “If you see that a provider is face in on her ads and social media, don’t ask for a selfie or a video chat, we will take it as an insult because it shows that you are trying from the offset to push our boundaries, and is very unlikely we will meet.”

Many providers choose not to show their faces in public. This is known as “Face in” and is done to protect them from the Feds, Immigration and banking institutions, who are actively seeking out providers and making life very hard for them. ID software is used to identify providers on social media and it is forwarded to LE, Immigration, Banks etc, so the trend is for providers NOT to doxx themselves.

If you choose a face in provider, DO NOT request face pics, video calls, pics.

Providers who show their faces on social media are called “Face out“, they have no problem showing their faces, but WILL NOT provide you or anyone with proof of ID.

Should you stumble apon a providers real ID – FORGET IT, FAST!

Make sure your S/M profiles are respectful, DO NOT send them dick pics! – No matter how big you are it will NOT get you a discount or freebie!

Be polite and respectful at all times – in person, Social Media, on the phone and in emails.
The only exception to this would be if you have agreed in advance to a roleplaying scenario.

Make sure you understand what the provider offers. If you have any requirements which are not specifically offered, you should ask discretely in advance of the appointment. If the providers page details any specific Rules/Policies/Conditions/Deposits, read it carefully and respect their rules.

DO NOT discuss or ask for “services” on the phone, use their site or email.

Be discreet. If you are going to a private residence, ask for instructions on how to get in. Don’t use the providers name when calling an intercom, announce yourself only. In hotels, do not ask concierges or other staff anything about the provider. If there is a problem or you need to ask a question, go back to your car or leave the hotel and call on the phone.

Don’t call a provider from a hotel lobby, in the street outside her flat or any other situation which might put their (and your) privacy at risk.

If you have any allergies: animals, scents, etc – make sure you tell the provider. If you have an aversion to tobacco smoke or smokers you probably want to check that too.

If the provider is visiting your home or hotel room, ensuring it is clean and tidy is a good way to start an appointment.

Respect the time period you have booked. Most providers do not like to have to ask you to leave and many will not ‘watch the clock’. However, you are ‘buying time’ and shouldn’t expect anything for free so respect what tome you agreed to in advance.

Talk to the provider when you arrive! (Not on the phone) Very often clients assume the provider already knows exactly what they want, if you don’t talk this is what happens –

In most cases you will be expected to pay at the start of the appointment. Providers charge for their time only, and “extras” must be negotiated beforehand. Tell them what you expect from them beforehand and DO NOT change the script or they will get up and leave.

The client will be expected to pay for all meals, drinks, travel expenses, tickets, accommodation etc during the appointment.

Don’t try to negotiate the amount of the donation beforehand or on arrival, in this case you should expect to be asked to leave. Assume that rates are non-negotiable.
If you are extending the period, you can politely discuss how much more you should donate but don’t assume you will be offered a discount.

This is common nowadays – Providers may ask for deposits and ID verification, especially long distance providers – this is to ensure their safety and your commitment.

If a provider doesn’t ask for ID, S/M links etc – Be wary! (Scammers are only interested in your cash).

It is up the client to check the reviews on the profiles and also to leave honest reviews about your experience. Badmouthing a provider will probably get you blacklisted and banned from this site.

Banking info – IF you do see the providers real info, destroy it and forget you ever saw it.

If you deposit money to a providers account, be careful to word it as a “gift”, “Transfer”, the “day/month” etc. Banks/C Checks can spot anything suspicious & it is not rare for them to close an account with little warning.
PayPal is no longer sex friendly! – even buying sex toys or erotic literature can close your account.

Move on and find an honest listing, chances are you will never see the escort or your money again, for all you know you were fooled by some hairy dude.

It is recommended to check (and read) as many of the providers profiles and sites as possible and verify that they are “real”.

The bottom line is – If you are afraid of your deposit being ripped off, then you haven’t done enough research on your provider to be meeting them.

Let’s be honest – Losing $100 isn’t the end of the world to weed out a scammer.

Always agree on the basis of contribution including expenses at an early stage of any proposed meeting- FMTY or an hour outcall. If you don’t like the terms move on. Nothing worse than either party feeling “short changed” as it will ruin the vibe of the meeting.

Have a spare bed/bedroom available for the provider should they choose to sleep alone.

Give the provider some “alone time”, ask if they would like time to themselves, you cannot expect them to “work” 24/7.

No – Refunded unless the client is the reason for cancellation.
However most providers will simply offer to re-schedule the appointment.

Make sure you are aware of the law regarding prostitution wherever you are, be aware of the penalties and how it is enforced. The oldest profession in the world has survived pretty much every legal attempt to prohibit it, but this doesn’t mean you can’t get in trouble in some countries.

Keep an eye on your wallet, phone and other valuables. Thefts do happen, especially in countries where it is pretty sure you are not going to be making a police report. (An old sailors trick is to place them in your sock).

If you arrive at a place and you are in any way worried about your physical security or see any danger signs, leave immediately.

Common sense – use it!

Don’t do stupid things or expect others to do so – Putting fingers or items anywhere without permission is a sure way to upset the provider.

If you are not sure you should be doing this – Don’t do it.

Always treat sex workers like human beings (they are and never forget that).

Make sure you know local laws and don’t get arrested.

Don’t do anything which feels uncomfortable – if you feel uncomfortable or in danger – leave immediately.

It pays to:

Use a burner/prepaid phone for your calls and messages. DO NOT use biometrics to lock your phone, use a password and make it harder for the cops/? to see your contacts & messages.

Use a spare email account – Gmail or ProtonMail are recommended for messaging/enquiries.

Use the TOR browser, this browser is designed for privacy and works through it’s own VPN’s, it doesn’t store your history either.

Use Incognito mode in your web browser. (Incognito mode does not save history, addresses, passwords etc).

Use a site which does not require you to enter personal information which can be stolen, sold or used against you (Like ours).

Have a spare bank account for online purchases/deposits/accomodation/meals etc. Providers prefer payment in cash and are wary of PayPal, Venmo etc scammers.
If you do forward a cash deposit via post or courier, be sure to place it inside an old book, gift etc.

Do not take valuables or large amounts of cash on your date, if it’s your place – lock up anything of value.

Never discuss this topic with friends or relatives – you will regret it later!

Watch the videos below on how to spot cops, scammers & bad providers.

If something seems “off”, trust your instincts and excuse yourself.

Do not look for providers on Facebook/Reddit/IG! Facebook is a haven for scammers & catfishing – Be warned! 99.9% of “providers” on FB are faked, the pics are AI or stolen, there is little to no info or history on the profile, the “links” lead to fake “dating” sites which are nothing more than malware/virus spreaders. Any info you enter on those sites is sold to spammers.

Do check the providers profiles, sites, SM etc carefully.

Read their conditions, rates, availability, contact methods, payments. Pay attention to the pics for “things” in the backround (Alcohol, drugs, a mess?) and also the area they operate in. High class providers do not operate from scummy neighborhoods, will not see you without screening, they don’t give client discounts and don’t take disrespect!

Do not contact a provider asking for same-day service. There is a 90% chance that you will only annoy them as providers take bookings days in advance. Would you expect your doctor/mechanic to cancel appointments to “fit you in?”

Do not mention your life/sexual history or mention anything sexual – this could get you blocked as this is how cops bait sex workers.

DO NOT send them dick pics! – No matter how big you are it will NOT get you a discount or freebie! They will most likely ask you “Is that your thumb or your dick?”

DO NOT request face pics, video calls, pics unless you are paying extra.

Do not book a 2hr dinner appointment and expect to get “extras” as well in that time. You may be paying for taxi’s, drinks, food etc, but that does not entitle you to “extra free time”. It is your responsibility to keep track of time and your are paying for their time only.

Do not tell a provider they are “too expensive”. This is the equivalent of telling them they are ugly and/or worthless. Providers set their rates on overheads, time, experience, discretion etc and they already know you can “get it cheaper” down the road.

Do not arrive early or overstay your welcome, once again you are paying the provider for their time. You would not do that to any other professional service and it will get you blacklisted.

Do not arrive with a planned session, your 1st session is a TRIAL to get to know each other! Each provider is different, every session is different and you will have to get to know each other 1st.

DO NOT request bareback/BB/skin-to-skin/uncovered services! No real provider will allow this, and if they do – regard it as a red flag as this is potentially dangerous to your and their health.

Do not choke your provider without permission – Many see this as an act of aggression and it is becoming a major complaint among providers.

Do not finger (ANYWHERE) or muff your provider without permission – Infections, STD’s etc. (Another common complaint).

Do not slap a provider or pull their hair without permission – It is viewed as aggression!

Do not spit on your provider without permission – Infections, STD’s etc.

Do not ask about a providers personal life or their professional activities, if they volunteer information – fine. In the same way, change the subject if you are asked personal questions.

Do not discuss other providers as this type of gossip can/will have unpleasant results.

Do not leave valuable items unlocked, put away laptops, phones or any other items which could be used as recording devices.

Do not smoke without permission.

Do not piss in the shower/sink – Apparently this happens a lot and is not appreciated.

Do not attempt to “stealth” recordings or take pictures without permission, if you are caught you will be blacklisted and could also be prosecuted by law. Hidden cameras in suitcases, glasses, pens, toys, keyrings, buttons, badges etc have been around a long time and providers are wise to them.

Do not make promises you are not going to keep, whether it is for a future appointment, gift or review.

Do not use cologne, deodorant or perfume on any area that you might expect to be licked or sucked.

Mouthwash or chewing gum is often appreciated, as is staying away from strongly smelling foods, such as garlic, onions or curry.

Do not stalk providers on social media – it makes them VERY uncomfortable! If you do happen to stumble across a providers private profile online – leave it alone! (They already have enough issues with Feds, LE. Banks, Immigration etc).

Do not scratch or “hickey” a provider! This is not acceptable behavior and can cause infections.

Do not flush condoms, or leave them on the floor/furniture. Same goes for wiping yourself on the furniture/curtains which is another common complaint.

Do not go from ass to vag without prior consent (it’s not a porn movie).

Do not “stealth” (remove condoms without consent) providers, it is considered as sexual assault in some countries and can get you a jail cell.

Do give compliments and positive reviews where it’s due. Gifts and donations are always welcomed and appreciated. Being generous never killed anyone and most of our listings have links to Wislists etc.

Do not make appointments and then not turn up as this is just rude, disrespectful and guaranteed to get you blacklisted. If you have to cancel an appointment, do so as far in advance as possible. If you changed your mind, just tell the escort – it does happen. If you don’t know what NCNS is, you need to read our definitions page.

Do not ask a provider to make videos with you – Even providers who do video collabs will only accept offers from certified performers with the required legal contracts and it is never free.

Do not request for GFE, GFE+, GF3, VGFE etc, unless you understand the meaning, AND have discussed it 1st.

Do not ask a SW to have your child! It sounds nuts but this happens all the time. No matter how much money you have – it isn’t enough! Look for surrogates if you have a few million lying around spare.

The biggest complaint we hear lately is that clients are trying to be porn stars – Porn is NOT real life!, and isn’t fun for most women – watch Bellesa.co if you really want to know what women want.

Read their pages and take notes of their rules and stipulations (Our biggest complaint).

Send your requested info – as requested, nobody cares what you drive, where you live/work etc.

Do not haggle or complain, pay your deposit, don’t text them unnessesarily, be curteous, be on time (5-10min is recommended), bring a gift (thoughtful gifts are most appreciated).

Don’t do any of the stuff listed above in the guidelines.

Don’t overstay your booking.

If you enjoyed your visit, good reviews (avoid sexual descriptions) and gifts/donations are always appreciated.

Generally speaking – No! (Though it has happened before).
Be mindfull that this is a business and providers do not normally want a relationship ruining their means of income. Would you expect your dentist/doctor/lawyer/mechanic etc to provide free services?

Unless the provider makes the 1st move, DO NOT try to try to start a relationship, or you most likely will be blocked.

Do not stalk providers online or pester them – you will be blocked.

Ps. “If you chase the cat, it will run away from you. If you have what the cat wants, it will come to you” – Joe M

When people say SW isn’t a real job, these are jobs you need to be skilled at to do FSSW:
Receptionist (answering messages).
Administrator (booking, organizing appointments, organizing contacts).
Private Investigator – Screening and vetting clients.
Accountant & Bookkeeper (keeping track of finances coming and going, invoicing, financial planning).
Marketing Director (social media, ads, branding).
Photo Editor (editing photos for ads & social media).
Graphic Designer (making flyers/posters for ads & social media as well as logos or branding).
Writer (writing ads, social media posts, website content, replying to clients
Web Designer (if you create your own website).
Esthetician (skin care, body hair care, nail care, etc).
Makeup Artist (daily makeup).
Counsellor (listening to clients problems & issues).
Entertainer (talking, engaging with our clients, or anything entailing being “on” with every client no matter what’s happening in our personal lives).
Sexologist (being an expert in sex).
Travel planner (booking flights, coordinating FMTY dates, planning activities).
Tour Guide (planning activities for dates within your area, showing them the sights).
Food and Beverage Connoisseur (finding the best restaurants, pairing wines/drinks, making foods for your guest).
Housekeeping (cleaning your space when hosting).
Property Management (managing an incall space).
Maintenance (doing small repairs at your incall space).
Interior Design (decorating and furnishing an incall space).
Data Analyst (reviewing your analytics on SM, websites, marketing etc).
SEO specialist (SEO, meta data, etc).
Photographer and Videographer (editing content, filming content, especially for the content creators and OF SWs).

So, NO SW’rs don’t make millions as the “experts” on Reddit would like you to believe!