
Escort Booking advice
A guide on how to find and book real Escorts –
Do’s and Dont’s!
Table of Contents
- How do I find a real escort?How do I avoid escort scams?What is the best escort booking advice?
- Are Verification and deposits required when booking escorts?
- How do I avoid being scammed or catfished? (E*Whoring, E-Whoring scam)
- What are the signs of a scammer, sting or catfish?
- What is the best Escort contacting advice?
- What NOT to do when contacting an Escort?
- Why must clients screen?
- I refuse to screen – why should I screen?
- What happens when you screen compliantly and don’t try to hide who you are?
- Why won’t Escorts verify?
- Face in or Face out?, Why won’t Escorts show their faces?
- What must I do when seeing an escort?
- What are client donations?
- What do I do if Escorts demand deposits?
- When the escort cancels the appointment is the client wrong to expect a refund?
- Can I use references?
- What if I’m scammed?
- What does GFE mean?
- What must I do for FMTY or overnight?
- What must I do for overnight stays?
- What are some suggestions for FMTY/Overnight appointments?
- What are some Male grooming tips?
- Incall or outcall?
- I hate condoms, what alternatives are there?
- How do I stay out of trouble?
- What are some escort Do’s & Dont’s?
- How to make an Escort like you?
- Can I date an escort?
- Why are real escorts so expensive?
- I think I caught something…. What must I do?
- Related Links
How do I find a real escort?
How do I avoid escort scams?
What is the best escort booking advice?
Where are you looking?
Social media sites and listing sites like Locanto, LeoList, Reddit, Twitter, IG, Junkmail, Gumtree etc are havens for scammers.
If the listing doesn’t contain pics, links to personal sites, fan sites, social media etc –
Don’t waste your time or money on some scammer.
Be wary of ads that offer little to no information and seem to be too good to be true, especially if the pics look like plastic dolls.
See below to see how scammers are using realistic AI to fool unsuspecting punters.
Directory listings on websites that are littered with fantastic pictures and really low prices? – Red flag.
Listings offering “bare” BB services are another huge red flag.
Scammers dangle this carrot knowing that no real professional is prepared to risk their lives and their business for a few bucks.
There are a few providers that do it – they are rare and living very dangerously, STI’s are rampant everywhere.
Cops regularly place ads on popular escort sites – No deposit?, model pics?, no website/wishlist/email address?, cheap?, no screening?, BB?, not verified?
These are things to watch out for or you will be in the local news.
We strongly recommend you check to see that your chosen provider has been verified on at least one site.
We personally check that all our listings are who they say they are, we also follow them on social media to keep in touch with them.
Don’t jump yet – Google their persona and see if they’re active anywhere else.
If in doubt, do an image search on their pictures and see if they’re really their own.
Sites like Adult Services List spend a lot of effort ensuring each listing is a bona-fida provider with a proven track record, saving you the hassle and worry of finding real professionals.
This site was created to combine and bring the best the internet has to offer on one site.
If you use our messaging system you can be assured the provider is as advertised.
No two providers are the same!
Each provider is different and has their own rules, rates, definitions, services, values, boundaries etc.
Escorts are like restaurants, you can go to a “high end” spot and hate everything you tried.. or you can go to a ”low end” spot and have some of the best food of your life.
Take your time and choose wisely!
Don’t compare providers or assume that they are union workers, or offer the same experience, services – they are not the same person and they decide how to run their business!
Don’t ever assume that they are doing it for kicks or pocket money – this is a serious business.
Business is business, cross the line and you get blocked!
It is a cash business – there are no pay later, discount or loyalty schemes.
Reviews –
Take reviews with a handfull of salt – a BIG handfull.
Bear in mind that many clients have unreal expectations, are cheapskates etc.
Many providers however decline written reviews simply because clients don’t have manners, many reviews are also faked by providers, jealous providers, bf’s etc.
Your introduction can make the difference between getting laid or getting blocked.
If your intro isn’t businesslike, you are shooting yourself in the foot –
Read our section on booking advice – Providers will love you for it.
Are Verification and deposits required when booking escorts?
No two providers are the same, there are some that don’t bother with screening and deposits, some don’t do screening and some don’t do deposits.
There simply are no rules, but if your provider wants verification and/or deposits be as compliant and polite as you possibly can.
Many “experts” and sites advise clients to never pay deposits, however if you have done your homework and your (verified) chosen provider demands a deposit, pay up or risk being blacklisted.
Pay particular attention to their booking requirements and conditions, cancelation policy and don’t book until you have the cash ready.
READ THE ADS BOOKING CONDITIONS AND FIND THOSE THAT SUIT YOU BEST!
How do I avoid being scammed or catfished? (E*Whoring, E-Whoring scam)
Scammers posing as escorts is know as E*Whoring and it’s taken over every social media and services site, there are millions of fake accounts and thousands of complaints by clients who thought they were being scammed by an escort.
If your chosen provider meets the following you can relax –
1) Does she/he have a personal website?
2) Does she/he have at least one verified listed ad online?
3) Does she/he have active social media? (Not just reposting other’s ads).
4) Does she/he often engage with other colleagues and followers online?
5) What do her/his reviews say?
6) Do the pics match and look real?
7) Do they have a promo video?

What are the signs of a scammer, sting or catfish?
Scammers are now “Next level”, we’ve recently seen profiles on Xitter with realistic fake pics, faked websites, fake wishlists etc, AI is improving every day.
One really has to follow them, read their posts carefully and note what’s missing to see that the profile isn’t real.
The following are all red flags –
1) Looks like a Playboy/Playgirl pinup and charges way less than industry average.
2) Multiple active ads in different cities? – check the dates.
3) “available now” – Nobody is available now except brothels (For appointment booking maybe?).
4) Google search their images and results are famous models, influencers or multiple different social media accounts.
5) Different people are pictured on the same profile.
6) Their promo video is somebody else.
7) Different profile ads using the same Tel# or email address (Looking at you FB, Locanto, Reddit, LL…).
8) Real escorts don’t DM a total stranger nudes without payment.
9) The pics look odd – look carefully at the hands (fingers), hair (airbrushed), skin (plastic), no marks/scars, no tattoos?
AI pics are everywhere and fool most people.
Look at the 6 fingers/airbrushed hair/plastic skin/broken railing on these fake “AI escorts” a scammer posted on Facebook –

What is the best Escort contacting advice?
When contacting an escort, it is a good idea to provide some information about you.
A polite introduction is very helpful as part of getting through any decent screening process from a quality escort.
“Are you available?”, “Hi”, “Yo”, “Hey”, “WYD” etc are NOT polite introductions and you may be blocked immediately!
DO NOT title your email “enquiry from xxx.tr*st” or “I saw you on Adult.xxx” or “Email from Er*s.xxx”, because those look exactly like the million spam/scammer emails that providers get everyday.
This is what an introduction message should look like:
Hi my name is _____ my FB/Twitter name is_____ I am ____yrs old, I found you on Adult Services and would like to see you on ____(day) at ____(time) for ____(hours).
Be aware that most providers WILL NOT cater for clients under the age of 23.
Mind your language – Words like Ho, whore, prostitute, slut don’t sit well with most providers.
Asking for an appointment the same day will usually not work either –
Providers book days ahead and need time to prepare and to check your backround. Trying to force a meeting could get you blocked.
Never ever ask for rates! It proves you haven’t read their ad/site.
Rather confirm that you have the correct amount.
Available now – Does not mean the provider is waiting for your boner, “available now” means they are available to accept bookings.
Please refer to our dictionary if you are unsure of the terms used.
Do not message them outside of their business hours and expect an answer, you won’t get one.
Providers don’t need to know your sexual history, marital status, kids etc, etc.
Your job has nothing to do with recreational activity either, there are too many stories of clients being blackmailed over losing their jobs.
Besides many clients are unemployed/self employed/retired etc – pick one.
The best advice is to decide what you are looking for and then narrow your searches to providers who offer the services you require.
Always clarify what you are looking for without going into a 2-page essay.
Just enough information for the provider to confirm they can cover your requirements (AFTER you have read their services, conditions, cancellation policy).
It is a good idea to do this upon first communication so you don’t end up wasting time.
Do this on the site or by email – NEVER by DM or phone!
First introductions, and appointment service questions/details must be discussed solely via e-mail, even if you have met before.
Texting will be used solely to confirm the where’s and when’s of your booking.

What NOT to do when contacting an Escort?
Do Not ask for same day service unless it is offered!
This is considered disrespectful and rude, providers need time to prepare for bookings and to do screening etc.
There are no discounts!
Not for birthdays, holidays, repeats, huge boners, “Nice Guy”tm etc – Don’t ask and you won’t be blocked.
The only way to get discounts is – Book longer sessions!
Real professionals are expensive, do not contact them until until you have the cash ready!
High end providers do this on purpose to keep volume down and client quality up.
Don’t contact a companion until you are ready to book with a date, time and your screening/deposit ready.
This is a business and time is valuable, show them you respect them and their time.
Set the date and time in your schedule, if you cancel you will definitely lose your deposit and can be charged for their time wasted.
Make sure you familiarize yourself with their booking requirements before you reach out. If you are unwilling to meet them, move on to someone else who is willing to provide what you are looking for.
Follow their directions the first time they ask. Going back and forth over prices, or anything else will surely be a quick way for them to not want to meet.
Do NOT ask questions about bedroom activities and what they do/don’t do via txt. This is entrapment and will get you ignored/blocked in most cases.
Be respectful! A gentleman never goes out of style.
Want to stand out? – Send her something from her wishlist before meeting, don’t show up empty handed when you meet.
It’s the thought that counts!
I guarantee making them smile and being thoughtful will get you further.
By the same token – Don’t ask for verification ID, Video or pics – you will be blocked!
Providers spend a lot of time and effort getting verified online and the last thing they will do is give their personal info to a stranger.
Research the providers links and check that they are real (a few months old)
READ their sites and reviews and be mindfull that clients are not always kind or respectful.
The boards are full of clients complaining because they didn’t do any homework and contacted the cheapest provider, or expected more than was on offer!
Respect boundaries
If a provider says, “I don’t offer that service”, accept it as a NO and leave it alone.
“Why not?” is not an appropriate question, it puts providers in the awkward position of having to reveal personal information they are not comfortable sharing.
Most of the time people who ask this question are going to follow up with even more boundary pushing questions like – “Could we do it if we call it something else? If I pay more? I won’t tell? Please?”
The answer is simple – “Because I don’t want to,” “I said no” are clear boundaries.
Nobody wants to be alone in a room with someone who’s already demonstrated that they don’t respect boundaries.
The nicer you treat her outside the bedroom, the naughtier she’ll get inside the bedroom.
What NOT to do…

Why must clients screen?
Any real provider will require you to provide proof of who you are, and possibly your place of work as well as any S/M profiles you may have.
This is done sothat the provider is happy you are who you say you are and are safe to see.
Be sure to ask whether the provider will retain or delete your data.
If they don’t ask for proof of ID – Be wary of Scammers & Law Enforcement.
Many clients refuse to screen, or supply false info, or even “share” with a buddy. What they don’t realize is that screening is also a test of your compliance, honesty, obedience, transparency, personality etc.
Your relatives, spouse and friends are not included in your screening and the provider isn’t going to ask your boss about you.
A provider can/will refuse your business on any grounds, it could be as simple as they don’t like the “vibe” they’re getting from you, they don’t specialize in the services you require, or you may even remind them of someone – Don’t take it personally, don’t lose your cool.
Sometimes clients tell us stories of having being caught, and it is NEVER because they screened, but because of their actions – They are sloppy and leave paper trails, don’t delete text/emails, leave computers/phones open…
Screening is not your biggest risk, YOU are.
Meeting for coffee/food in public IS NOT screening.
Face time IS NOT screening.
Sending ANY AMOUNT of cash IS NOT screening.
LinkedIn IS NOT screening.
Passing screening isn’t a guarantee of anything and complaining, arguing, protesting etc with a provider will send you straight onto the local blacklist.

I refuse to screen – why should I screen?
Ask yourself – Would I rent my car/house/gun to somebody I knew nothing about?
In the same way providers need to re-assure themselves before risking their lives with a stranger.
You may well be a “good guy” but Twitter/Reddit etc is full of pics of escorts who have been savagely beaten and left for dead – or worse.
Anyone who tells you they are trustworthy is NOT trustworthy, the same goes for guys who tell people how “safe”, “rich”, “nice” or “honest” they are – don’t say it, show it!

What happens when you screen compliantly and don’t try to hide who you are?
– Your companion feels safe and comfortable.
– Your companion is not anxious and looking over their shoulder.
– Your companion likes you more and looks forward to meeting you.
– YOU have a better experience.

Why won’t Escorts verify?
In order to get “Verified” status on websites the provider has to provide proof of ID. We strongly recommend you check to see that your chosen provider has been verified on at least one site.
If the provider has no verification you are skating on very thin ice.
Asking a verified provider for proof of ID by pic or video is considered rude, timewasting, disrespectful, and likely to get you blocked (Most of our listings already have promo videos so you can get an idea of what they are like).
From one of our providers –
“If you see that a provider is face in on her ads and social media, don’t ask for a selfie or a video chat, we will take it as an insult because it shows that you are trying from the offset to push our boundaries, and is very unlikely we will meet.”

Face in or Face out?, Why won’t Escorts show their faces?
Many providers choose not to show their faces in public.
This is known as “Face in” and is done to protect them from the Feds, Immigration and banking institutions, who are actively seeking out providers and making life very hard for them.
ID software is used to identify providers on social media and it is forwarded to LE, Immigration, Banks etc, so the trend is for providers NOT to “doxx” themselves.
If you choose a face in provider, DO NOT request face pics, video calls, pics.

Providers who show their faces on social media are called “Face out“, they have no problem showing their faces, but WILL NOT provide you or anyone with proof of ID.
Should you stumble apon a providers real ID – FORGET IT, FAST!
What must I do when seeing an escort?
Make sure your S/Media profiles are respectful, DO NOT send them dick pics!
Discounts
No matter how big/handsome/rich/poor you are it will NOT get you a discount or freebie!
Birthdays, holidays and repeat visits DO NOT qualify for discounts either.
Be polite and respectful at all times – in person, Social Media, on the phone and in emails.
The only exception to this would be if you have agreed in advance to a roleplaying scenario.
Make sure you understand what the provider offers. If you have any requirements which are not specifically offered, you should ask discretely in advance of the appointment. If the providers page details any specific Rules/Policies/Conditions/Deposits, read it carefully and respect their rules.
DO NOT discuss or ask for “services” on the phone, use their site or email.
GFE, GFE+, VGFE, GFE3, PSE etc DO NOT mean what the bro’s on Reddit think it does – check with the provider.
There are no industry standards, each provider has their own interpretation of these terms and none of them include “bare” services unless advertised.
Be discreet.
If you are going to a private residence, ask for instructions on how to get in.
Don’t use the providers name when calling an intercom, announce yourself only.
In hotels, do not ask concierges or other staff anything about the provider.
If there is a problem or you need to ask a question, go back to your car or leave the hotel and call on the phone.
Don’t call a provider from a hotel lobby, in the street outside her flat or any other situation which might put their (and your) privacy at risk.
If you have any allergies: animals, scents, latex etc – make sure you tell the provider. If you have an aversion to tobacco smoke or smokers you probably want to check that too.
If the provider is visiting your home or hotel room, ensuring it is clean and tidy is a good way to start an appointment.
Respect the time period you have booked. Most providers do not like to have to ask you to leave and many will not ‘watch the clock’.
However, you are ‘buying time’ and shouldn’t expect anything for free, so respect the time you agreed to in advance.
Do not expect fireworks on your first appointment.
First appointments are “get to know you” appointments, don’t arrive with an itinerary or “performance index” because it’s not going to happen.
Talk to the provider when you arrive! (Not on the phone/DM/email)
Arriving with a “menu”, “itinerary”, “performance algorythm” etc will only make you seem like a wierdo – Don’t do it!, providers hate being treated like sex toys and this is not normal behaviour.
Very often clients assume the provider already knows exactly what they want, if you don’t talk this is what happens –

What are client donations?
In most cases you will be expected to pay at the start of the appointment.
Providers charge for their time only, and “extras” must be negotiated beforehand. Tell them what you expect from them beforehand and DO NOT change the script or they will get up and leave.
The client will be expected to pay for all meals, drinks, travel expenses, tickets, accommodation etc during the appointment.
Don’t try to negotiate the amount of the donation beforehand or on arrival, in this case you should expect to be asked to leave. Assume that rates are non-negotiable.
If you are extending the period, you can politely discuss how much more you should donate but don’t assume you will be offered a discount.

What do I do if Escorts demand deposits?
This is common nowadays – Providers may ask for deposits and ID verification, especially long distance providers – this is to ensure their safety and your commitment/honesty.
If a provider doesn’t ask for ID, S/M links etc – Be wary! (Scammers are only interested in your cash).
It is up the client to check the reviews on the profiles and also to leave honest reviews about your experience.
Badmouthing a provider will probably get you blacklisted and banned from this site.
Banking info – IF you do see the providers real info, destroy it and forget you ever saw it.
If you deposit money to a providers account, be careful to word it as a “gift”, “Transfer”, the “day/month” etc. Banks/C Checks can spot anything suspicious & it is not rare for them to close an account with little warning.
PayPal is no longer sex friendly! – even buying sex toys or erotic literature can close your account.
If you do use it, use the friend/family option and don’t ever mention services/Adult products etc.
When the escort cancels the appointment is the client wrong to expect a refund?
No – Refunded unless the client is the reason for cancellation.
However most providers will simply offer to re-schedule the appointment.
Schedule conflicts, health issues, emergencies do happen in all business – be considerate.
Can I use references?
Unfortunately references aren’t much use, clients are known to fake their own references and testimonials, use their buddy’s accounts etc.
If you’d like to have a previous provider vouch for you –
a) Make sure it was recent (>6months)
b) Warn the provider/get permission 1st! – or the provider may think it’s your gf/LE etc.
c) References aren’t free – you will have to pay for your references.

What if I’m scammed?
Move on and find an honest listing, chances are you will never see the escort or your money again, for all you know you were fooled by some hairy dude.
Be more dilligent in future –
1) It is recommended to check (and read) as many of the providers profiles and sites as possible and verify that they are “real”.
a) Does something seem “off”?
b) Too cheap?
c) BB services? (Most will never offer bareback, not even for $10000).
d) Just reposting other providers posts?
e) Are they verified?
f) Send/request nude pics? – real providers NEVER do this for free!
Block them and move on!
2) Follow the providers sm profiles, sites for a few weeks to test they are posting like a real person before making a booking.
The bottom line is – If you are afraid of your deposit being ripped off, then you haven’t done enough research on your provider to be meeting them.
Let’s be honest – Losing $100 isn’t the end of the world to weed out a scammer and people will thank you for it.
PSA – This is probably the most important paragraph of all, and the primary reason we built this site –
Scammers and AI have upped their game, it is getting harder to identify fakes and vital that you follow steps 1 & 2 above.
One thing scammers cannot master is the ability to interact with other providers/public/SW Orgs on social media.
What does GFE mean?
Going for dinner is GFE.
Cuddling is GFE.
Remembering Christmas and Valentine’s Day is GFE.
Feeling good is GFE.
Chilling by the pool is GFE.
Going to see a film/ opera/ exhibition together, breakfast in bed, picnics in the park, surprising her “just because”… it’s all GFE.
What must I do for FMTY or overnight?
Always agree on the basis of contribution including expenses at an early stage of any proposed meeting- FMTY or an hour outcall.
DO NOT discuss terms via text or social media!
If you don’t like the terms move on. Nothing worse than either party feeling “short changed” as it will ruin the vibe of the meeting.
On multi hour appointments make sure to provide some extramural activities, nobody wants to be locked in a room and used like a sex toy.
Have a spare bed/bedroom available for the provider should they choose to sleep alone.
Give the provider some “alone time”, ask if they would like time to themselves, you cannot expect them to “work” 24/7.
What must I do for overnight stays?
Overnights DO NOT mean unreserved access to someone’s body, or extended (Viagra fuelled) sex sessions.
Do not touch or wake a sleeping provider without prior permission. Most providers will freak out waking in a strange room with a stranger touching them.
What are some suggestions for FMTY/Overnight appointments?
If you are wondering what kind of activities to do in a fmty besides sexy times, meals and museums, here are some ideas: –
Go to the spa
Wine tasting
Culinary class
Shopping trip
Art classes
Sculpture classes
Go to the theatre, movie, concert, opera, ballet
Yoga
Hiking
What are some Male grooming tips?
You should approach visiting an escort in the same way you would for going on a date.
You will be asked to shower – This is not an insult! Amazingly the biggest complaint we hear is that clients don’t use the soap provided, or don’t actually shower, and YES it is included in your time allocated, so be quick, be thorough.
The shower is to ensure you are clean as the proverbial whistle.
It’s pretty much standard practice (because too many men have such poor body hygiene standards & why should anyone have to put up with a gross working environment?) so a shower on arrival is standard practice, it also removes any perfumes or deodorant’s which can cause irritation. DON’T FAKE IT!
Wash your ass – again! You may think your butt is clean but leaving skidmarks on the sheets doesn’t leave a good impression.
You may be asked to leave all your belongings in the bathroom – this is because providers are tired of having clients trying to photograph or film them without permission.
Trim your nails and toenails; no-one likes being scratched.
Trimming or shaving any areas you might want licked or kissed, as this shows that you might like this to happen. Leaving areas hairy may well act as a signal that you don’t expect this.
If you need to take a shit, do it before you get there – leaving a bad smell or worse is not a great way to start or end a session.
If you are visiting what is a place of work or residence (or both), treat it respectfully.
Unprotected sex with an escort is not recommended – Condoms are NOT a guarantee against most STD’s either.
If you don’t like male condoms – ask your provider to try female condoms, with some lube you won’t notice the difference. NEVER “stealth” a provider (remove condom without their consent) as this is dangerous and a criminal offence in some countries.
If you are allergic to latex – TELL YOUR PROVIDER BEFORE THE SESSION!
Don’t brush your teeth within 30 minutes of the start of an appointment. Small abrasions on the gums and mouth can increase the risks from STDs.
Shave any genital areas the day before any appointment, small nicks and cuts are common and this is again a risk-factor for STD’s.
Bring condoms with you just in case and these should be in a sealed, unopened box. Normally, a provider will provide these and expect you to use theirs for their own safety.
Wash yourself as soon as possible after the appointment.
Incall or outcall?
What is an incall? – When you go to the provider.
What is an outcall? – When the provider comes to you.
Very few providers will do house calls with new clients, it takes time to establish trust with a new client.
NEVER ask a provider to come to you if there is ANYONE ELSE in the house/hotel (kids, spouses, friends etc).
Best is to book a hotel room or go to the provider until they get to know you.
Do not make loud noises or do anything that will attract attention in hotels, incalls etc.
I hate condoms, what alternatives are there?
If you don’t like condoms, ask your provider if they offer female condoms.
Female condoms take some getting used to but you can’t feel them.
Only lube the inside of a female condom – never the outside or it will slide out.
Contrary to what the “experts” (chucklefuks) on r/client say –
GFE, GFE+, PSE etc DO NOT include “bare”, “Raw”, “BB” services unless stated in the ad, they are playing with you.

How do I stay out of trouble?
Make sure you are aware of the law regarding prostitution wherever you are, be aware of the penalties and how it is enforced.
The oldest profession in the world has survived pretty much every legal attempt to prohibit it, but this doesn’t mean you can’t get in trouble in some countries.
Keep an eye on your wallet, phone and other valuables. Thefts do happen, especially in countries where it is pretty sure you are not going to be making a police report. (An old sailors trick is to place them in your sock).
If you arrive at a place and you are in any way worried about your physical security or see any danger signs, leave immediately.
Common sense – use it!
Don’t do stupid things or expect others to do so –
Putting fingers or items anywhere without permission is a sure way to upset the provider.
If you are not sure you should be doing this – Don’t do it.
If you encounter LE – SHUT THE FUCK UP!
Let your lawyer do the talking or you could well make things much worse for yourself.
Don’t do anything which feels uncomfortable – if you feel uncomfortable or in danger – leave immediately.
It pays to:
Use a burner/prepaid phone for your calls and messages.
DO NOT use biometrics to lock your phone, use a password and make it harder for the cops/gf to see your contacts & messages.
Use a spare email account – Gmail or ProtonMail are recommended for messaging/enquiries.
Use the TOR browser, this browser is designed for privacy and works through it’s own VPN’s, it doesn’t store your online history either.
Use Incognito mode in your web browser. (Incognito mode does not save history, addresses, passwords etc).
Use a site which does not require you to enter personal information which can be stolen, sold or used against you (Like ours).
Have a spare bank account for online purchases/deposits/accomodation/meals etc.
Providers prefer payment in cash and are wary of PayPal, Venmo etc scammers.
If you do forward a cash deposit via post or courier, be sure to place it inside an old book, gift etc.
Do not take valuables or large amounts of cash on your date, if it’s your place – lock up anything of value.
Never discuss this topic with friends or relatives – you will regret it later!
Watch the videos below on how to spot cops, scammers & bad providers.
If something seems “off”, trust your instincts and excuse yourself.

Clients don’t ask these questions in RL, why do it with escorts?
What are some escort Do’s & Dont’s?
Do not look for providers on Facebook/Reddit/IG/Locanto etc!
These are havens for scammers & catfishing – Be warned!
99.9% of “providers” on FB are faked, the pics are AI or stolen, there is little to no info or history on the profile, the “links” lead to fake “dating” sites which are nothing more than malware/virus spreaders.
Any info you enter on those sites will be sold to spammers and your inbox will become a nightmare.
Do check the providers profiles, sites, S/Media etc carefully.
Read their conditions, rates, availability, contact methods, payments.
Pay attention to the pics for “things” in the backround (Alcohol, drugs, a mess?) and also the area they operate in.
High class providers do not operate from scummy neighborhoods, will not see you without screening, they don’t give client discounts and don’t take disrespect!
Do not contact a provider asking for same-day service.
There is a 90% chance that you will only annoy them as providers take bookings days in advance.
Would you expect your doctor/mechanic to cancel appointments to “fit you in?”
Do not mention your life/sexual history or mention anything sexual in DM’s or txts – this could get you blocked as this is how cops bait sex workers.
DO NOT send them dick pics! – No matter how big you are it will NOT get you a discount or freebie!
They will most likely ask you “Is that your thumb or your dick?”
DO NOT request face pics, video calls, pics unless agreed.
Do not book a 2hr dinner appointment and expect to get “extras” as well in that time.
You may be paying for taxi’s, drinks, food etc, but that does not entitle you to “extra free time”.
It is your responsibility to keep track of time and your are paying for their time only.
Do not tell a provider they are “too expensive”.
This is the equivalent of telling them they are ugly and/or worthless.
Providers set their rates on overheads, time, experience, discretion etc and they already know you can “get it cheaper” down the road.
Do not arrive early or overstay your welcome, once again you are paying the provider for their time.
You would not do that to any other professional service and it will get you blacklisted.
Do not arrive with a planned session, your 1st session is a TRIAL to get to know each other!
Each provider is different, every session is different and you will have to get to know each other 1st.
DO NOT request bareback/BB/skin-to-skin/uncovered services where it is not advertised!
No real provider will allow this, and if they do – regard it as a red flag as this is potentially dangerous to your and their health.
Do not choke your provider without permission – Many see this as an act of aggression and it is becoming a major complaint among providers.
Do not finger (ANYWHERE) or muff your provider without permission –
Infections, STD’s etc. (Another common complaint).
Do not slap a provider or pull their hair without permission –
It is viewed as aggression!
Do not spit on your provider without permission – Infections, STD’s etc.
Spit is not lube! – it also causes infections.
Do not ask about a providers personal life or their professional activities, if they volunteer information – fine.
In the same way, change the subject if you are asked personal questions.
Do not discuss other providers as this type of gossip can/will have unpleasant results.
Do not leave valuable items unlocked, put away laptops, phones or any other items which could be used as recording devices.
Do not smoke without permission.
Do not piss in the shower/sink – Apparently this happens a lot and is not appreciated.
Do not attempt to “stealth” recordings or take pictures without permission, if you are caught you will be blacklisted and could also be prosecuted by law.
Hidden cameras in suitcases, glasses, pens, toys, keyrings, buttons, badges etc have been around a long time and providers are wise to them.
Do not make promises you are not going to keep, whether it is for a future appointment, gift or review.
Do not use cologne, deodorant or perfume on any area that you might expect to be licked or sucked.
Mouthwash or chewing gum is often appreciated, as is staying away from strongly smelling foods, such as garlic, onions or curry.
Do not stalk providers on social media – it makes them VERY uncomfortable!
If you do happen to stumble across a providers private profile online – leave it alone!
(They already have enough issues with Feds, LE. Banks, Immigration etc).
You can/will be charged with a crimminal offence.
Do not scratch or “hickey” a provider!
This is not acceptable behavior and can cause infections.
Do not flush condoms, or leave them on the floor/furniture.
Same goes for wiping yourself on the furniture/curtains which is another common complaint.
Do not go from ass to vag without prior consent (it’s not a porn movie).
Do not “stealth” (remove condoms without consent) providers, it is considered as sexual assault in some countries and can get you a jail cell.
Do give compliments and positive reviews where it’s due.
Gifts and donations are always welcomed and appreciated.
Being generous never killed anyone and most of our listings have links to Wishlists etc.
Do not make appointments and then not turn up as this is just rude, disrespectful and guaranteed to get you blacklisted.
If you have to cancel an appointment, do so as far in advance as possible. If you changed your mind, just tell the provider – it does happen.
If you don’t know what NCNS is, you need to read our definitions page.
Do not ask a provider to make videos with you (free) – Even providers who do video collabs will only accept offers from certified performers with the required medica certs & legal contracts and it is never free.
Extended dates (2hrs+) with new clients – meet at dinner or for drinks 1st.
It’s wild to think providers will be ready to jump into bed with you for 4 hours when we’ve spoken less than 10 sentences.
Do not request for GFE, GFE+, GF3, VGFE, PSE etc, unless you understand the meaning, AND have discussed it 1st.
Do not ask a SW to have your child!
It sounds nuts but this happens all the time.
No matter how much money you have – it isn’t enough!
Look for surrogates if you have a few million $ lying around spare.
The biggest complaint we hear lately is that clients are trying to be porn stars – Porn is NOT real life!, and isn’t fun for most women – watch Bellesa.co if you really want to know what women want.
Reddit r/client –
Plse, Plse do not take anything you read on Reddit (or any other hobby forum) as gospel.
Those “experts” are playing with your head AND they are NOT who they say they are!
How to make an Escort like you?
Read their pages and take notes of their rules and stipulations (Our biggest complaint).
Send your requested info – as requested, nobody cares what you drive, where you live etc.
Do not haggle or complain, pay your deposit, don’t text them unnessesarily, be curteous, be on time (5-10min is recommended), bring a gift (thoughtful gifts are most appreciated).
Don’t do any of the stuff listed above in the guidelines.
Don’t overstay your booking.
If you enjoyed your visit, good reviews (avoid sexual descriptions) and gifts/donations are always appreciated.
Can I date an escort?
Generally speaking – No! (Though it has happened before).
Be mindfull that this is a business and providers do not normally want a relationship ruining their means of income.
Would you expect your dentist/doctor/lawyer/mechanic etc to provide free services?
Unless the provider makes the 1st move, DO NOT try to try to start a relationship, or you most likely will be blocked.
Do not stalk providers online or pester them – you will be blocked, reported, arrested.
Ps. “If you chase a cat, it will run away from you. If you have what the cat wants, it will come to you”.

Why are real escorts so expensive?
When people say SW isn’t a real job, these are jobs you need to be skilled at to do FSSW:
Receptionist (answering messages).
Administrator (booking, organizing appointments, organizing contacts).
Private Investigator – Screening and vetting clients.
Accountant & Bookkeeper (keeping track of finances coming and going, invoicing, financial planning).
Marketing Director (social media, ads, branding).
Photo Editor (editing photos for ads & social media).
Graphic Designer (making flyers/posters for ads & social media as well as logos or branding).
Writer (writing ads, social media posts, website content, replying to clients
Web Designer (if you create your own website).
Esthetician (skin care, body hair care, nail care, etc).
Makeup Artist (daily makeup).
Counsellor (listening to clients problems & issues).
Entertainer (talking, engaging with our clients, or anything entailing being “on” with every client no matter what’s happening in our personal lives).
Sexologist (being an expert in sex).
Travel planner (booking flights, coordinating FMTY dates, planning activities).
Tour Guide (planning activities for dates within your area, showing them the sights).
Food and Beverage Connoisseur (finding the best restaurants, pairing wines/drinks, making foods for your guest).
Housekeeping (cleaning your space when hosting).
Property Management (managing an incall space).
Maintenance (doing small repairs at your incall space).
Interior Design (decorating and furnishing an incall space).
Data Analyst (reviewing your analytics on SM, websites, marketing etc).
SEO specialist (SEO, meta data, etc).
Photographer and Videographer (editing content, filming content, especially for the content creators and OF SWs).
So, NO SW’rs don’t make millions as the “experts” (lol) on Reddit would like you to believe!

I think I caught something…. What must I do?
1) Relax, don’t announce it to the provider or on social media.
2) Your 1st step is to see a doctor and get confirmed & treated ASAP –
STI’s DO NOT “go away” and early treatment is vital.
Condoms cannot prevent the majority of STI’s which can transfer with ANY body fluid contact.
3) Once you have tested positive – Notify your provider, chances are they already know (real providers and pornstars are tested regularly).
4) Do not expose anyone to your STI until your doctor says it it safe.
Related Links
Here are some additional links for those who want to know more:
Booking Escorts WITHOUT Getting Caught
Scams sex workers should be aware of
What are red flags? How do we use them?
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Julian K
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